I miss tooloud too, but I respect his choice even though I might disagree with it.
He may choose to return at any time, if that's his wish.

 

Well, there have been several very personal attacks lately on our members and it wasnt even taken seriously.
Do something about it or you will keep on losing people that actually contribute something useful here, otherwise this forum will consist only of "R2R is angry" and other bs type of threads.

 

An action was taken in this and every other case that was reported. Forums are open for everyone, therefore trolls are to be expected. They are and will be dealt with, however offense is taken not given therefore we cannot preemptively ban suspicious people before they say nasty things. That is true, trolls have the first initiative, but it's upon the rest of the community to report that person and ignore them (not reply to any snarky comments) and don't take anything too personal.

Von_Steyr, if you have some concrete comments on improving what we do here, feel free to share them either publicly or through PM.

Of course we might go with tightening screws on the rules and creating sort of safe space, however I don't believe this is for the good of the community or the spirit.
Don't get me wrong, I recognize and acknowledge the problem, however I can't think of a viable solution yet.
Many members have decided to leave Audiosex - but even with heavy heart, I have to respect their choices.

 

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@phloopy I think the guy you mention has shown an ability to learn from the past... and adjust
I personally haven't seen a lot of negativity or "conspiracies" of late...

but we did lose @Aliens and @tooloud because of some abusive rhetoric/postings from new arrivals..

I agree that I'd rather have the mods pay some attention to the situation, because after all there are many people
who contribute in their own small way so we can all pick up new information and knowledge to positively pursue our passion here
and interact with those of like mind, rather than engaging in abuse and negativity, this should be a place they can do so
unimpeded and unharassed

that's why we're here right?

 

I'll gladly forward all your suggestions to the rest of the team, if you think you have an idea how to solve the situation, please share it.
@Herr Durr @xsze also decided to leave for the same reason a long time ago, not sure if anyone still remember him

 

@Cav Emp gone after taking crap, @subGENRE barely shows up anymore also after some drama. We're kind of bleeding here.
No idea what to do though tbh.

 

absolutely... that was the whole "cat-wars" era right?
He came up with some very informative and fantastic posts, and was a genuinely nice guy..

I contacted him a few times after he left , very fine gent.. and quite a good resource we lost here as well

@nadirtozenith seems to have finally drifted away too

 

i propose a new rules to be regulated. maybe an automated script. whoever mention R2R, Oboom, keygen and alike, will be automatically redirected to twitter.com. you with me? <3

 

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, imo.

And we all need to respect each others in the same way that we expect others to respect ours........especially since our chosen field has no definative answers..

There is no bad taste or good taste........only differing tastes, in all stages of music production.

To many here seem to be trying to impose their views, which to me seems arrogant, again imo.

I didn't have a problem with TooLoud, I don't have a problem with anyone here, if I did, they would know, but I never viewed him as the most cuddly bunny from the fluffy box either, I can't honestly say I'm surprised at the end result..........and I doubt I'm the only one who thinks along the same lines.

There was a post some time back about how this forum had a bit of a closed feel to outsiders/newbies.........at the time I didn't think that that was the case...........now I'm not so sure.......may be a contributary factor.

 

i have got to admit i have taken much more of a back seat recently. i almost started a thread called 'the changing faces of audiosex' looking back at all the nice members who first welcomed me here, and out of them virtually none are still here. i wonder who they really are, and if they are doing alright in 'real' life.
i hope they all come back. i feel this forum is at a bit of a crossroads for me- i pray it can go back to full strength soon

 

Diapers, you know they make sense

 

...don't have idea what is all this about, but somehow I have a feeling that this would do it!

 

I think there is not much to add. We already had a dude in germany last century who wanted a final solution and this always ends in dictatorship I think. Maybe also we should not forget that:

And everyone of us is somehow responsible for enforcing those.

 

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totally get it.. I don't want to "snowflake" -out on the situation either, I can take a hit ( and give a few) because I don't really
much care what someone says about me here, and members tell me when I am over the line at times ...

but of course some are more susceptible to distress, especially when their personal info is splashed around to
hold them up to ridicule as with @tooloud, this in particular I think is against the terms of not conducting personal attacks in
the threads, @tooloud clearly could not handle it... how to remedy? yes we need to report what we find objectionable
or against policies, and let the mods decide..

probably wouldn't hurt to suspend someone's posting privileges if they attack someone to the point they close up and leave
I agree it's not easy to define the lines, but still the mods here are being pretty fair about their actions..
and a suspension would give someone a while to reflect on if this is the place for them, or they want to find another
forum where they can spew their invective and trash other participants.. my 2 ¢

 

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sometimes negativity from others can help you & inspire you in a positive way...
i never understood why while i was having a nice talk with a nice fellow member(jynx) someone disliked me so bad (read post #12-#19 or all of it) on this thread :
https://audiosex.pro/threads/blue-analog-poison-enjoy.32089/

from that i was inspired back then and made this :

https://audiosex.pro/threads/dont-hate-only-acid-love.32109/

 

I always assume the abuse here by certain individuals is due to their lack of ability to express opinions in a coherent way and so resort to bullying as the only way to externalise their 'opinions'. This is just a microcosm of the real world .....get used to it and just remember you are don't have to be part of it, just like our day to day existence.
On the other hand, this is a rather inferior medium of communication and liable to misinterpretations ......accidentally capitalising etc etc, so just assume the best about people until they prove otherwise.....like supporting trump or studio one.

 

not everyone knows how to apply those buddhistic principles as Alan Watts might do tho...

and some men just like to see the world burn

 

I've certainly slowed down responding to threads due to this. Not that I'm afraid that my views will be refuted. I don't really care about that. I just don't wish to spend any mental/emotional energy on useless discourses. I save that up for the music!
And the ones that do this have a pattern of it that is easy to spot. Once I see them enter into a thread's discussion, I usually check out.
Seems a shame that the "safe" music forum I love is headed in this direction. It's typical though that an asshole or two can ruin everything for everyone else.

 

Solution for old members leaving AudioSEX? Gin.