So if you have family issues try to be understanding of today's insane, cold, fast paced, expensive lifestyle which is so stressful it often fractures families and even making them short tempered and maybe even lashing out on you.
Thing is, today's children have no backbone. So just a loud word constitutes as verbal abuse to them. It's sad really.
Be glad you still have parents, and enjoy every moment spent with them, because you will open your eyes when their eyes will close forever
Correction: Thing is, most of today's children have no backbone. So just a loud word constitutes as verbal abuse to them. It's sad really. There. I've left out the few that have spines.
I was raised in an abusive, violent household. At 11, my stepmother told me she would kill me if I told my father what she was doing to me. It was a life-altering event on its own. I didn't have a safe place to grow up. I wonder if you think I'm missing my spine, too?
Once in a while AS becomes a Support Group. But anyway, to the point. @Kate Middleton Its like stating the problem without even mentioning the OS version, or hardware u use. i dont think Just a plain statement would give u any answers or comfort. U dont have have to delve deep into ur problems, just one or two examples or incidences which u might consider "Verbal abuse" might be necessary for others to relate ur problems to, and give u the answers u might be looking for, and might give u much better perspective and clarity. I am sure others here might have come across the same path as urs.
There is no "correct" answer in this topic as each one of us judges relatively to our own relationship with our parents.It's like arguing which compressor is the best and worst. Having to share a place with other people it's already difficult on it's own. Being "transparent" (pun intended) is the best you can do to avoid further clash.
i agree with the other dude. i work with children, from 6 to 18-20 teenagers as well. i've never understood this generalisation. i joke with them but i also raise my voice when needed. some parents also jokingly allowed me to spank some of them :D i guess it all depends on context and where you live etc.
Some teenagers have no respect! No respect! Teach Teach right or wrong!& discipline! Ive seen kids picking on pensioners & vunerable people thinkin they are apart of some organisation/gang, which will backfire on them one day!!! thinkin they are a badmen!
Maybe we have something in common. I haven't done well with it , but I know that staying off any alcohol in their nefast presence helps me see them for what they are> people with deep inner problems and the only fault they have is not being realistic in acknowledging these torments. Then there is the old bite your tongue three times trick. It's sometimes hard to pardon them for their strange behaviors, but if you think about it, it's sad they treat you badly more for them than for you perhaps. good luck with it all..
Being a baby boomer born after WWII, our parents were always there for us, we respected and loved them. Life was hard but a lot better than today we grew up playing sports & had many outdoor activities. We always had quality family time together and were a lot happier than kids of today. We didn't have any of today's technology instead we studied, developed our minds and bodies. If ever confronted with aggression we didn't run, whine or cry we defended ourselves, we were tough but never ever purposely hurt anyone. Our parents never beat us beyond a well deserved spanking. We appreciated and loved our families and mourn their loss. I consider myself really fortunate to have been born in that era of time. We were also raised when firearms were very common in almost every home, but never had any crime in my areas, guns were used for hunting and sporting activities or if ever needed for protection, we felt so safe & secure in our homes no one even locked their doors in my neighborhood. Last edited: Oct 1, 2024
It so sad hearing about the abuses some of you had to endure, even threatening to kill you, that is just too much they should have reported it to the police who in return would have contacted child services, I have only heard of minor family issues from the children of friends who basically complained about being grounded for a weekend or two, stood in the corner for a few minutes, deprived of games but never of any threats like mentioned here, these should have absolutely been reported. I am so sorry you were subjected to such abusive treatment by a family member.
Unless your life is in danger, this is a temporary situation. Now if there are things that parents should be helping with but are neglecting, you're going to have to reach out elsewhere for help. Closed mouths don't get fed. My family refused to do right by me on several counts and so I either had to find help elsewhere, make it happen myself or put it on the back burner. I've had addicts and abusive personalities of all kinds in my life growing up. You can persevere. If you're in need of serious help then now is your chance to tell someone. I know the damage verbal abuse can do. Again, you have to remember it's temporary and ask "Do these words mean anything coming from them?" See somethin, say somethin. Keep your chin up.
Not everyone can do the roommate game. I never had luck finding decent enough people. Not making excuses, it's also a sign of the times.
I've been in situations like that. I was physically and verbally abused. In my case, I left my father and never came back at all until now. I never cared about him. It's only my mom that I visit often. (Because of course they are both separated and live in different houses). Wish you a great day, Arth
