Hi @Cardamom, my condolences.
I'm not married but I recently lost my brother (cancer disease, six year older) and I was devastated. He was my best friend and inspired me in all my life with his behaviour, his advices and his constant support.
After the first terrible period i found great comfort in talking with people who knew him to share thoughts about him and his life. I often have meetings with his widow (they have no children) and remember a lot of nice moments we spent togheter. Me and my brother shared an immense passion for music both listening and playing (he made an incredible Eurorack synth that now I own) and almost every day I listen to something we loved (I reunited all our collections of vinyls).
So I think that it's better to stay in contact with friends and related to the passed person, continue to use things that she loved. Finally I own now a dog and I think it was a good idea to bring him home. Also I read someone here that suggest to write some music for her, why not? Cheers.

 

Birth and death are recurring events, the cycle of life: one person is born, another dies.

Some people die in accidents, some are victims of crime, some die of illness, and some die of old age from organ failure.

We knew some of the deceased personally; we learn about others from the newspaper or television.
Death accompanies us throughout our lives, consciously or unconsciously.

Life is only truly precious because of its limited duration, for in the end, death awaits us all.

Let us try to alleviate suffering by saying no to war and yes to peace. Let us advocate for safe routes to school and adherence to traffic laws so that we have fewer fatal accidents. Let us always be kind to our fellow human beings.

Let us make life safer overall so that we have fewer crimes against people.
Let us advocate for greater workplace safety so that we have fewer fatalities from workplace accidents.

As we can see, there is much that can be done to reduce the number of deaths and thus lessen the suffering of us all.

 

I agree on "doing something".
This guy i love done a LOT of different things.
He lost his wife years ago, and done a lot of things after ... even more than before she passed away.

He is now a really wise man : photography, magnetism, philosophy, electromagnetism ... and more.
https://www.youtube.com/@KenTheoriaApophasis

 

Only time can make it better. If you keep busy for the day, it will hit you at night. Just know that it gets better and you will able to remember them without being so sad.

 

Sending love and strength to you, Brother.

Me and my beautiful lady had a rough summer, she went through three cancer scares, one after the other, waiting for results. Fortunately, they all came back clear, but it made me do something I'd never done in the 30 years our souls have entwined. I thought about what I would do if she did go.

Sad to say, just being honest, my first thought was that with no Kerry, there'd be no me, so might as well get high as fuck and go out with an opiate OD. I have NEVER considered or even thought of ending it, but the thought of being without her left me scared, hollow, and lost. The thought that my three grown kids, 28, 25 and 18 would be feeling immense pain and might just need their Dad around, snapped me out of that stupidity!!!

As said, Kerry was given the all clear so we continue on, soul mates, best friends, lovers, partners in crime, bandmates, fishing buddies, explorers, dreamers, parents and grandparents.

I sincerely wish the absolute best, that your new chapter in life brings you joy, peace and fulfilment.

 

I love these stories of long term relationships appearing here. My parents lasted 40 years before cancer took my dad. I know it doesn't help the pain but please treasure how beautiful it is to connect deeply with someone for so long. I've just ended another 10 year relationship because ultimately we just weren't mentally and spiritually connected enough. Finding the right one and making it work is a miracle sometimes. Massive respect to you all!

 

sending my energy to you, reality is like glass and it's devastating when it breaks. She's there where we can't see , the same as my dead. they're all together, but we rarely can see them. twice I felt my grandmother. honor them and move on with the things you had in common and the now resulting spinoffs. in grief, pain is the game and the more you feel it the better.

 

This
my wife and I were anything but the perfect couple. constantly at each others throats. I figured she would be kicking me out for the next 20 years. But even still she was the one person I knew I could count on and I am grateful for the time we had together.
No one comes into our lives by mere coincidence

 

Your kids probably may not know about this, but as someone roughly the same age as your kids, I'm glad you're are here and decided to be here. Children always need their parents whether they are 18 or 60.