Lets ''Be Very Honest '' Are u dedicated so much that if someone get in your way of making music like a relationship or friendship that requires u to neglect the music u make and the importance of what u trying to accomplish within music would u stay in that relationship or friendship? like how dedicated are u because this is real shit it happens

Now if u do choose the person you with over music thats understandable as well just in case of some people not understanding where im coming from

and yeah i know people also do music for a hobby so they can be effected from this as well because a lot of times this the only time they can enjoy themselves

 

I'm sick of music. I'd trade music for a good hamburger.

 

don't care, wont answer, wont choose, wont put myself in that situation nor spend any second thinking about it. Just treat it like trees. It's there, I'm absolutely allowed and capable of doing nothing about it.

 

Here you go! Music in Hamburg in a theatre that looks like a hamburger. You needn't give up one for the other.

 

Before having my daughter, I was 100% focused and dedicated (I was always that guy who first deliver any job parts I was doing). After becoming a father, moving to another city, my ability to create/produce decreased (due to reduced free time, low concentration and little privacy). Only now, that my baby turned 2 years and two months old, I'm finally getting back to composing/producing more often. But still, since it's just me and my wife, when I go to pick up my instrument and start producing songs/multimedia music on my daw, I still feel pretty tired and feel like I don't perform like I used to. And I know that I'm training my brain to produce again. Yeah pal, responsible parenthood is a huge job!

Specifically about your comment, think carefully about the steps you will take in your life. Planning is never too bad. People talk a lot about letting it run free, letting everything happen, not worrying so much about things, etc, but if you can self-program yourself in the direction of your dream, better for you.

 

'Art for art's sake, money for God's sake' - 10CC

You'd better be dedicated to making money elsewhere first because it's extremely difficult to make money from art. If you've set your course on this path in life you'd better be dedicated to it above all else, nothing can be allowed to get in your way. You're shooting for a tiny target at the limit of your range and the target is moving.

The better question might be 'am I fooling myself that what I'm doing is good enough?'.

I'm doing none of that, I'm just trying to make art for art's sake. Age chips away at your dedication and reality beats you over the head until you get it through your thick skull - 'No, you're not good enough, have some more of this!' Then you can start enjoying what you're doing.

But if you're smart you can make a living from music once you abandon the dream of fame and fortune. If you do it this way, if music is your income, your work, then just like with any other job you can't let other people prevent you from working.

If you're young don't worry about any of this, just do what you really want to do. A friend/partner needs to understand that you need to pursue your dreams. If they want to stop you it might be for their own selfish reasons. Or they're trying to tell you that they don't think you're good enough (not being good enough shouldn't stop you either because dedication will lead you to being good enough).

What you really need is realistic expectations and a strategy to progress to a realistic goal.

The word 'dedication' doesn't mean 100% commitment to something. It isn't really a useful term in reality. In reality it's more like 'I really want to do this other thing but I have to do this one thing first'. It's where the term 'life gets in the way' comes from.

If you're married forget about it, your dream is dead.

 

Anything or person that would stop me doing music would be out of my life rapidly.
Because music IS my life.
If a person get so much in the way of music, that means that this person do not respect nor understand who I am so no relationship is possible..
One exeption is if a family member (which includes true friends) have a big problem and need my help.

 

i feel the same way .... i see it as very disrespectful and selfish

 

I've been involved in making music in one way or the other since I was a kid, so all (girl)friends knew that straight from the beginning and have never done this. Why should they?

 

But there are plugins with a complete Hamburger menue.

 

I NEED to make music, it wouldn't even be a choice to make for me. It's like my lifeline journal so to speak, and venting...it's great for venting. But it keeps me on track, without music I'd fly off the deep end and doubtfully would I come back...

 

Without music, I would not be who I am today. Anyone who I would consider spending a great deal of time with would know this about me.
It is not a commodity to be bartered or haggled down. it is not something that I can trade. And if someone would want to try to take it away they would be changing who I am.
Dont ever be with someone who wants to change who and what you are. Because in the end neither of you will be happy with the result.

 

Yeah I don't get it. It's not like you hide it from them for a year or two before springing it on them. If they're cool, they're going to be cool with it from the get go and understand. If not, why are you entertaining that person in the first place? Seems like a bad sign starting off with telling you how to live your life heh.

Now with that said, OP, how dedicated are YOU to music that you would shut everyone and everything else out? You better be making a good living with some serious 'this is next level shit' to have that kind of attitude. Otherwise, if you're spending that much time on a 'hobby' that you're ruining relationships, maybe you should look into yourself and work on that.

 

before i found my current girlfriend, yeah i didnt think id be able to be in a relationship again because i put it first in my life - i mean just about everything god gave me in my life came from me focusing on my music, i feel like im on a mission

even despite knowing that though, two of my ex girlfriends in the past thought they would be cool with it in the beginning but eventually started becoming resentful towards me. touring really takes a toll on my relationships - a beautiful woman who has a lot of options and is not my wife, will only wait around for me for so long. ive missed some important moments in general being gone….

but i have hope my current relationship will survive it - there is a fear in the back of my mind though that it will turn out the same but i try to keep it under control. i love her but i know in my heart i cant give up my purpose for her, really hope it doesnt come to that again

 

I figure you are asking if someone gives you an Ultimatum regarding your choice in career in music.

Putting the choice of employment aside, the entire point of friendships and definitely relationships is that you take the person as they are, knowing what they do and accept them warts 'n all. It is NOT love if anyone wants to mold someone into the vision of what they want. That is called control and many other associated names.
There is a joke that many psychologists say it really isn't a joke and is very real and true in many cases apparently. The joke is that a man marries a woman hoping she won't change but she does and a woman marries a man hoping he will change but he doesn't.

 

I love music, but I'm sick of working with it, but, it brings in some money, so I have to tolerate working with it. I'd give it up in a heartbeat, but I'll still listen to music, because I love music. Do I make sense?

 

I'm with the people who feel its a bit control-freaky... but obviously there are cases where there are exceptions.

 

Played violin as a child since 1955, switched to guitar in 1960. so I guess that could completely qualify as my entire life. Music is my lifeforce, passion, my muse and the reason that I'm still alive. Until the end I will always play guitar, Lord willing. I've worked my entire life at a full time day job and then since 1965 also performing with several local groups, then later on doing live and recording session work, until health issues limited me and took over some years ago. I have a fantastic family, I'm a father, grandfather also a great grandfather. A life full to the brim, What do the Fates still have in store for me...?

 

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Music is in my blood. When the Spotify vampire tried to feed on me and suck me dry I thrust a wooden guitar neck through it's cold, dead heart.

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Not if you marry the right person... I didn't but got divorced, then I did and it's been amazing.