How to lie?

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  1. justwannadownload

    justwannadownload Audiosexual

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    This is a batshit question.
    You cannot build long-term connections on lies. You cannot "succeed" in a social field without long-term connections.
    If anything, you're sabotaging your "success" with lies.
     
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  2. justwannadownload

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    This situation feels very far-fetched to me. I can't imagine how another lie might save a person that's ultimately suffering from lies in their life already. They need the truth, and the only reason you might not be able to help them is that you don't know the truth about their life and don't know which lie exactly drives them to end it.
     
  3. Mahapurush

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    Good point! You're right, there are times when a well-intended "white lie" might seem like the best option, especially with young children. But I believe we can navigate these situations too. Here's what I have learnt from books on parenting:

    • Age matters. Very young children may not grasp complex situations. A simple explanation might be better than a lie. As they get older, they'll deserve more honesty.
    • Protect their well-being. The lie should be to protect a child's emotional well-being, not for adult convenience. For instance, saying a shot "won't hurt" can backfire when it does.
    • Focus on truth eventually. Avoid elaborate lies or those that can be easily disproven. If you say "the store is closed" to avoid a tantrum, have a plan for how to reveal the truth later.
    • Transparency is key. Where possible, be transparent. You can say "I can't tell you everything because you wouldn't understand yet, but trust me." This builds trust and opens the door for future honesty.
    Some other points to consider:

    • Partial truths. Can you tell part of the truth? "Grandpa is sick, but he'll be alright" is better than "Grandpa went on a trip."
    • Positive framing. Instead of "The dog went to live on a farm" (which can be scary), say "We found a loving new home for the dog."
    It is good to remind yourself that the goal is to raise a child who trusts you and understands honesty. By being truthful whenever you can, those rare "white lies" will have less impact.
     
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  4. MBC_Music

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    I can't lie, Waves makes the best plugins.
     
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  5. El Cycer

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    I don't think it's the same person with different names, this type of communication is a trend today. the “Fosterization” of Audiosex is just the reflection of what happens in all social networks: shooting clickbait posts just to make noise, there is no desire for dialog in it. Until recently, this was done with spray cans on the walls of the city, today there is the internet (more practical)
     
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    this picture was taken in my bathroom, enough said file4723.JPG
     
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    Ain't this the truth!

     
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    you just need psychotherapy, buddy

    :wink:
     
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  9. Ed Jachimowicz

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    How can "the basis of human life" be based on a lie? Whatever the basis is, is the basis. Whatever we believe the basis is, might be a different story. And what we have been told that the basis is, might be a lie but the basis is the basis (if there is any but that's a different topic)
     
  10. The King

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    40 Of The Biggest ‘Lies’ Told In Human History
    https://www.boredpanda.com/biggest-lies-human-history/

    Daily lies
    http://realityspeaks.expertscolumn.com/article/top-100-lies-people-tell-often#google_vignette

    The list is very long. These were just some examples.

    We are all victims of these lies. Maybe we don't know it ourselves.
    The basis of the whole economy is lies. From production to consumption.
    Lies exist in other fields too, which I cannot write here. The higher the position of people, the more hugely impactful their lies are.
     
  11. justwannadownload

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    "Biggest lies in human history", yet all points are USA-specific as far as I cared to check.
    The first point being "made" is Carlin's quote about God (from his american "christian" understanding, which by itself is bollocks), and the structure of the publication implies that Carlin lied (as every other quote is blatant lies), while the tone of it implies that Carlin is right. What gives?
    I would not advise you to base your world view on low-effort underinformed publications like this.
    It is also ironic that this article is in itself based in idea of American exceptionism (again, at least most points are USA-specific, who I did not have patience to keep on reading), which is in itself a lie. A lie to which Carlin unknowingly alluded to, to boot.
    I guess they truly do think Carlin lied then?
    Idiots. Through and through.

    Oh, and if you care about earthly success to begin with, you're lying to yourself. You will die and rot, and all your achievements will do the so alongside you. Stop wasting your life on things you don't actually find important just because somebody told you (or worse yet your parents) to.
     
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    Yeah, I forgot to quote @clone 's similar answer. It could be the case, of course. And there's been others users/threads like that, some recently. By other users I mean.

    But after many years here and seeing this very same characteristic behavior... I would bet my dongles it's Foster. Or a copy-cat, can you imagine? Like in serial murder movies and shit. Foster for Spiritual Leader!! :rofl::rofl:
     
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    Literally, a "copy cat".

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  14. Lois Lane

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    I was going crazy trying to think of this, the only Jenny Lewis song that I think is good, and this one is really good and quite apropos fo the thread,

     
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    act normal
     
  17. Audioguydaz

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    Well yeah, just be cool. You can expect to be a bit of an arsehole from time to time but being awake and reflective is your best bet towards being generally decent. Everything else is a bit delusional. You know "I can't lie" kinda thing - Yes you can, and have done and do so regularly. To what extent is another matter - but don't kid yourself.
     
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    whatever the basis, whatever the bass is.
    the true meaning of LI(f)E. lie-fee
    we are one, to deceive your brother is to deceive yourself
    a man. amen.

    just some food for thought guys...
     
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  19. ClarSum

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    I'd say an important part of maturing into adulthood and successfully navigating life, is the ability to differentiate between lying, categorised by the intention to deceive for personal gain at the expense of others, and strategic omission or evasion of the truth, to mitigate harm to others, or to simply function socially.

    Imo, lying is optional and dependant on one's motivations, whilst management of the truth is an essential skill needed to function in any aspect of life.
     
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    Do the best you can to pretend to yourself that you do the best you can to be the best person you can be.

    You shall not lie.

    But if it is impossible to not lie ...

    ... and there are the little white lies that shelter others from being hurt.
     
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