I think Phil Zimbardo and his book "Demise of Guys" is showing only a part of the story, is true that women have taken the pole position from men in many domains, as the academic world and increasingly getting better paid jobs, with more status and responsibility. But happiness studies show that there is a downside to that reality, in countries where that reality is significant, women levels of happiness are decreasing and men levels of happiness increasing, even if they are making less money, working outdoors in more physical jobs with less status.
It seems that some of us are discovering the perks of simple life, in this materialistic and superficial world.

By the way, I am a guy in a relationship with my girlfriend for 13 years (not married by choice till now), we have the coolest kid in the whole world and she loves me unconditionally as long as I mix in headphones

Just be happy and keep making music. Cheers.

 

You're not autistic and shouldn't feel as such. It's a known thing that western womens (as a big picture) have become awkwardly aggressive and prone to wicked tactics (ie , see that men and his friends in his 50's earlier in this thread or the other guy who couldn't see his kids and the laws aren't doing a thing about it) Those cases are sadly NOT isolated. So the logical and rational response of any sane men would just be to protect himself from pain and destruction which is why it is completely natural that you feel intimidated because you should. The risk of misstepping can literally be fatal.

The reproduction level of western people have become so low in the last 3 decades that there is a known trend they called ''passport bro'' that show mens seeking the natural balance between the masculine and feminine energy in other more conservative countries. It tends to bring a more harmonious, fulfilling and authentic relationship.

So to resume, your feeling is just grounded on facts surrounding you that you might or might not acknowledge but that you know about. Your just sensitive and know you can't just follow your instinct as it will probably lead you in a world of shame and self destruction.

Don't let the social pressure define you. This over sensitive and incoherent unknown pronoun thing is just a trend as ridiculous as any other weird one we had before. Their only silver bullet is canceling and deleting. Their argument is founded on absolutely nothing coherent nor tangible. Stay focused and don't force something that cannot work. You're not autistic. You're grounded.

 

Thanks for the kind words of encouragement!

While I don't disagree with your overall statement, I will just add that there are indeed people out there who are having genuine trouble interacting / communicating with the other sex in particular and people more generally. It's not always just an imagined thing, but sometimes a real issue caused by an underlying neurological, neurodevelopmental or psychological (as in: learned behaviour, negative self-image due to upbringing...) condition.

Not to mention socio-economical mechanisms, that determine which status an individual enjoys in society, based on income, looks and fitness / health. I think incels (I'm not talking about their extremist, misogynist and misantrophic offshoot; but more generally about "involuntarily celibates" in the literal sense), which in term also define how highly you are sought-after by the other sex (generally speaking, I know that not everyone is mega superficial and that their are some decent people left, who choose their partners based on sympathy, not based on socio-economic status)...

 

We are saying the same thing brother. It's not an imaginary thing. What you are feeling is mostly based out of the socio-political pressure we are all feeling for a few decades now.

Don't put too much on your shoulder. Stay grounded and find your thing, whatever that may be. Don't force it when it doesn't come naturally. Again, you're not tripping nor autistic. Your feeling is very real and grounded on facts. IT IS AWKWARD FOR A AFFIRMED MALE TO DATE IN THE WESTERN WORLD !!! Keep your head up !

 

Who"s asking?

 

Well... interesting question actually. I met her in church, which is pretty funny in itself because I was there in the band as a paid mercenary. And she had a kid, and my two hard rules were no church women and no kids. But I just kept... staring at her I think and long story, the moment we talked we just never stopped. I never even proposed to her, just one day we started talking about what the wedding should be like (costumes required).
And we realized we hadn't been fronting to each other, we were who we seemed to be.
Sometimes it do be like that.
I actually think sometimes we were together in past lives (I'm convinced in one we were lesbians )

 

Oh, postscipt, the kid thing worked out great too. I wound up officially adopting her.

 

You gotta love this guy's way with words
Hell of a nice real story too. Congrats

 

You might be correct !!!

 

No, it's very clever. And you are just honest and like honest people and hearing truth.
Whore always tell you with who she slept how many times.
Wife never.

 

Maybe you guys should marry each other than.

 

Sorry but your post is offtopic. Reported.
Everyone is adult and everyone is responsible for himself.
Everyone can do whatever he want with his free time and no one should trying to force something on him.
Anyone can waste their time on being single, married, testing audio gear or carry out surveys.

And from where do you know that he isn't right now working on some project and need for lyrics some data how many buddies are married or single? Maybe he making some rap song about love or something.

So for you 10 members are not a community?
I see that only around 30 members on the whole forum is active. Rest are some random 1 day accounts or old accounts which are active once a year. So yeah, right now more than 10 people here is a lot and almost half of active members so for me almost half of the whole community.

For you we here are trash or something?

I heard this many times. Like from neighbour "Buddy do not be naive. Do not marry!" and then his wife heard this and plates and pans got wings and starting to fly in his house.

Can I be priest and bless you guys? And tell the phrase now husband and husband you can kiss each other?

 

That would be a blasphemy and an offensive mockery of some people's deeply held beliefs, so yeah, absolutely!

 

Don't take the bait !!!

Misery want you to move in and pay half the rent.

Just don't.

 

Daisey let me be in my dream land i want to believe its millions of people here and active this the first time u hurt my feelins

 

Shut up non active noob. I don't know if you have wife but it was a little simulation
You wanna more?
If you say yes there will be no return and better remember this day because it will be our anniversary.
If you one time forget about it I don't wanna be in your skin