yeah the gaslighting effect its like rubbing to sticks together to start a fire or rubbing to titties together to start a orgasm its inevitable lol its going to happen and is about to happen lol

 

Oh don't get me wrong.. The missus is great! I was just curious.. It's happened about 5 times today alone!! and it's STILL only 7.30


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You're kidding... right? The only time I'm 'boss' is when she wants a new pair of shoes..

 

Mate I'm so sorry to learn of your predicament!


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Yes I must be clueless, because I didn't really understand the point you were making..

 

I just wanna point out to those who think it's all about arguing.. It's just during normal discussions because we rarely argue . She just asks why I'm ignoring her when I don't respond.. That is what I meant by 'getting moaned at'

 

Just ask her if you can leave because you "think" there's nothing more to talk about the matter. If she says you're ignoring her, just remind her that she was the one sending you out in the first place.

Edit.: Asked my wife why she does it. She said she doesn't. I leave. Now I'm far away and she just called me "Hey, what you just said?" If I'm still alive after returning there I'll come back here and continue this...

 

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Let's do it like a women and try to clarify the whole thing with a circular argument: women do this because they are women and women do this. hmm... no... that doesn't bring any new insights either.

 

By Clueless i did not mean u dummy, i meant the partner or women. Like in post u already answered ur own question

lack of interest, leads someone to not listening or whats the discussion about.

 

Why do men keep obsessing about understanding women, as if they already understood everything else?

Most men don't even understand how their prostate works. Start there.

 

i have come to the conclusion that today, most of us, dont know how to listen, or dont listen at all ...most of the time the person you have in front think that you are talking bulls*t, or think they know it all, I think this is the greatest problem in this century; WE DON'T LISTEN ANY MORE! and this is bad ... some tend to treat you like an album with tracks, and filter out all of the content at once ...this is the society we had been trained to live, I dont like it!

 

Sorry, what was that you just said?

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You're not wrong my friend

 

I solved that issue when we first met.

She started yelling at me some stuff I could barely hear so when I heard enough of it, I started shouting back stuff that would benefit my case or I knew she would also not be too sure of what I said.
For example, she would yell ''Oh and babe don't forget to put the cloths in the dryer.''
I would shout back something unintelligible.
So I would come back 15 minutes later with an empty bottle of beer in one hand and 2 unopened one on the other hand.
She would see me coming back asking why I have a bottle of beer finished and smelling like alcohol.
So I said '' honey, you told me it's Thursday and we deserve a beer so I thought I'd bring you back one.''
So she would say ''nooo that's not what I said''.
''Oh sorry babe, that's what I heard. I was also wondering why you would ask me to drink one alone.''

After 4-5 obvious time of me playing with her head like that, she then understood that shouting across the house was not an option anymore, she would need to bring her princess ass across the building and talk to me like a normal human being do.

We now drink many beers together and the house is a lot more zen like that.

You got to teach them young or they develop bad habits.

 

i am very sorry for you all. you are meeting the wrong women. you get the love you have to give.

 

i see what you doing good luck with that if they find out that you doing that its over for you lol.....if u don't get caught maybe this could work for some people but i wouldnt recommend it most women can't stand when we do that passive aggressive stuff thats what i was talking about earlier in the post being passive aggressive and not really speaking your mind fully.......

 

You all seem to be hanging out with the wrong women...

 

It's already over.

I fixed the issue by not overthinking it.

I also hate that passive aggressiveness and dealt with it on a mutual respect basis. Don't scream at me. Simple isn't it?

Don't act like an animal and I wont either. Simple fuckin' concept. I'm not into your double standards.

You do you, Bobby.

 

We are all human and some things are just in our nature, we can acknowledge them and try to work on them, that's what is most important, I'm not gonna ditch my amazing wife I love so much just because she have a bad day or life is crushing her, I'm there for her and vice versa, we both are aware of our shortcomings and communicate them to each other. We are both trying to be best we can, if we fail sometimes, it's not a big deal, everyone makes mistakes, life is hard sometimes.

In the end of the day, love doesn't come without some sacrifice, sacrificing your own ego and pride, let some injustice slide without hurting you, give all you have without expecting something in return, if love is what is really moving you to do something, than everything feels right and easy, there's instant reward and sense of fulfillment, peace of heart, only pride and entitlement can take any of it from you, but if you really love unconditionally, love is only thing you will feel.

Reaching that state in relationship seeks lot of sacrifice, lot of time and work, communication, trust, it's not something you get on day one, that thing seeks time and devotion, lot of trial and error, lot of work on yourself and that relationship.

We are all selfish and quirky, flawed, finding someone who can accept us and look past that and believe in us is hard, we all have traumas, trust issues, we all suffer and have lot of things to deal with, nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes, we all are perfectly flawed in our own way and should accept that and try to become best version of ourselves we can, be there for people we love and love them even when it's the hardest thing to do.

With right person, nothing is impossible, constant ups and downs, what doesn't kill relationship, makes it stronger. When we lost our child, my wife was out of her mind, I didn't had time to suffer or even think about myself or anything else except be there for her, she was miserable and defeated and even said some hurtful things in affection, but only thing I cared about was her and how I can help her to get better. Her dad died few weeks ago, crushed her again, she started falling into herself and depression again, but we managed overcome that too. When we met I was miserable, she believed in me and stayed, it's constant thing in life, we are getting stronger every day and our love too in the same time.

So at this point we been through heaven and hell together and every second of it it's worth it, but we aren't perfect and still make mistakes, feel entitled from time to time, but in the end of the day we overcome all of that, sometimes it's just one of those days when you can't even be in your own skin, when you dislike even yourself, but that doesn't last long, nothing last long, happiness or madness, that's how this life is.

 

what i say that made you say im acting like a animal ? or make u think i will act like one u made the statement lol

 

whats your definition of a wrong woman ?

 

I was talking about a women shouting across the house. I don't know you.

 

oh ok cool i see what u getting at now