This is irrelevant I guess, but I remember reading a story of this one guy that had a few rounds with this chick and she thought he was egging her on moving in when he has 2 cups, 2 forks and a spoon in his 1 bedroom apartment to his name but she ends up showing up at the door with 3 of her kids to get away from her husband asking him how they will live in an environment like that.

So you know, ghost and don't let them know where ya lay ya head at night.

 

Such excellent points, which is precisely why I recommended against my own advice when I let him know how to get women without strings attached.

Because most normal people probably expect a relationship and someone normal but people that are in the free market are about one thing only, but if that's what he wants then he knows how to get it. I just wanted to be perfectly clear about the results of taking that type of advice.

 

It's not about the substance.
It's about WHY.
I've been addicted to tobacco, booze etc etc... It's what you use to fill a hole or a need.
I have friends who've been addicted to everything you can imagine. One is currently addicted to Fortnite.
You need to get to the root or cause first. People suffer depression for example, so get addicted to all sorts. It's a mask, you know it. But that's addiction. It's when you lie to yourself to get through the day. If you are lonely or whatever else you have to address that first.
Just tuppence worth....

 

fuck porn just get layed and move on

 

I dont know about most people, but for me XXX just ruins me from the inside. It kills my motivation and energy, so i try to avoid it.

Also, a real relation is so much better, but for losers like me or you that use cam websites or anything XXX related to replace that, i think its understandable, most women today are a PITA. You cant even keep a conversation with them because they are focused on their damn phone 24/7.

So, in the previous post i said that unless its destroying your time, then its not SO bad, but it actually is, fuck porn and everything man.

 

I've read a book about porn addiction and the best advice it gave is to not watch porn at all as it has a detrimental effect on your actual real performance, it plays with your mind and gives you penis problems. The best thing to do is switch off from even going to online porn and try join some classes where there are lots of women with the same interest/s as yourself. Who cares if it's even flower arranging so you're the only male in the class it's about actually talking socialising with the other women on a one to one level share your interests thoughts etc and find out what they're all into and then you know what level you're on together to make the next move. Try picking a class where at least you know there will be honest genuine women for example going to church yeh even if not holly holly fact is they will more likely be the nicest ladies you'll ever meet. Yes Corona Beer Virus is not good for dating though just be yourself and get out there and most of all be safe. I wish you all the best.

 

Please, don't think about yourself this way. You aren't a loser. If you have a problem it doesn't mean you are worse than the rest of the society. At least you know that you want to change something in your life and at least this should be something positive in you. Besides, you are much more than your problem. And you're brave enough to talk about it openly. Maybe this way you're helping someone else with a similar issue.

Remember: you're not a loser. You simply haven't found the right person yet. Finding a partner is much more difficult than it may seem. Some of us may be more easy going and popular but it only means that we're different. Your skills and mine are different. You're a different human than I. However, you and your life is in no way meaningless and worse. Just different.

And yes, I do understand you very well. I have been fighting many addictions in my life. However, once you know your foe, you will find a right weapon to fight it. And you will succeed.

I'm crossing my fingers for your success.

 

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just do drugs

 

Sorry, I didn't read all previous posts so excuse me if I repeat anything from the above.

I'm in therapy at the moment. No, not for a(n) (porn) addiction, but because of the pain my
upbringing has caused me. At 53 it is even more painful than ever. Why I'm telling this?

Well it is simple. Your addiction is not the problem. It is a symptom off something else that
is 'wrong' with you. I could give you a couple of reasons but that's not helping you.
It's up to you to find out what is 'your pain' and the reason you are not solving this issue in your live.
Your addiction is a flight from the pain you don't want to face.

You might think it's sex-related but the chances it is are small. Someone above wrote something
about the fact he thinks porn is better than the real thing with his girlfriend. I can not and will not
judge the relationship but to me it comes across as if there is a problem in the bedroom and probably not even
in the bedroom but more in the field of communication. It can be hard to talk about sensitive things with the
person who is close to you. But thinking or believing that porn is in that case the solution is a shame. You are selling yourself
and your girlfriend short. It could be unfulfilled desires/fantasies/etc. or even the fact that giving pleasure and receiving are not equally divided between the two partners.

For those who suffer from this addiction: you can get help. But it will mean that you have to face yourself and
fact that you're are covering your pain up with your addiction.
Wishing you all the best

 

Hey brother, thanks for the positive words.
I am doing better lately (i still think i am a loser though hahaha) Joking...!

I am pretty "blackpilled" to the point that nothing makes sense sometimes, but i am trying to find a reason to keep living.

 

Ghaleon777, consider seeing a therapist. I wouldn't have changed my life thoroughly if I hadn't attended a therapy. There's a lot happening under the hood (well, in our heads) and we can't -- and often shouldn't -- deal with it on our own without a proper support. In most cases we simply don't know and don't understand the hidden motives behind our actions. That's where a therapist can help. If you do admit that you feel lost in the situation and need to find reasons to live on, than a professional therapy is what you most likely need. At least try and see what it's like: just don't give up after a couple of meetings when you realize it isn't a piece of cake. It may be difficult to face your life and change it, but the effort is worth it. Believe me: you can do this. Just let others help you. ✌

 

And THEN have a wank marathon!

 

Lesson number 274 : don't ever take advice from someone who thinks sex is performance.

It's an art. It's a spiritual practice.
And sometimes it's having your forearm covered in blood and shit.

But not performance.

 

There is nothing wrong for normally mentally developed people to watch porn. Of course, teenagers shouldn't watch porn, especially without their own sexual experience. For many people, watching porn is a way to satisfy their desire. After all, not everyone has a couple to have sex with. That's why they need porn, it gives them some sexual experience that they can apply later in life. In any case, it is better than limiting and restraining your sexual desire. Psychologists don't recommend suppressing desires, cos it can very negatively affect the mind.

 

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You know there is a great quote on the shades of Blue album by Madlib, and it is the truth. Thats why we are here

 

Jesus Christ, pass the eyeball bleach....

What if your desires involve raping and killing women or having sex with kids? I'm guessing most psychologists will tell you you'd better be suppressing THOSE desires.

 

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Hey mate, im replying a bit late, but thanks for the heads up. I am doing better lately anyway, my problems are mostly economic, but its nothing serious.

Cheers!

That quote was the real truth.