The Lethality of Loneliness
https://newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness-how-isolation-can-kill-you

The Isolated Artist Myth
http://artistmyth.com/the-isolated-artist-myth/

 

thank you

 

Seems like you are all alone in this thread. So i join you, before you die!

 

2 proverbs disapproving of loneliness:

A great city (AudioSex), A great solitude and also it may be quieter to sleep alone, but not warmer.

 

Loneliness is an emotional state and reaching it is completely different for every person. It's a feeling we succumb to, not an action we take.
I'm insanely reclusive. I've gone months by myself, in a room, scribbling on my walls. Even then there were times I got to feeling lonely.
Solitude was the choice I made. It can also be an amazing seed for creative thought.
To balance things out:

- Ellen Burstyn

 

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This article only addresses the romantic idea of isolationism however it happens unintentionally sometimes, like there were times I was too broke to step outside, and I would rather starve then work another crap job just so I can hang around people. Working in music isn't easy and requires a lot of writing which non artists can't understand. Friends start to turn away thinking you're conceited and soon you stop trying to make new friends because you're tired of the cycle of people looking negatively at you or what you're doing. Eventually the work gets good enough to pick up some other artists to collaborate with but that is tricky because most times they only want to work with those who are moving up. Unless you're fortunate enough to have financial support somehow its a tough grind. If you're still living with your parents take advantage and get as much practice and writing done to master your craft before you face the cold hard world.

 

It's verging on the alone-versus-lonely conundrum. Speaking for myself, solitude is valuable for me, for accumulating ideas and forming insights, as well as the liberty to concentrate on my music, writing or any other creative pursuit. Solitude is necessary, also, to maintain one's ability to maintain leadership; even the alpha-male chimpanzee goes alone up to the mountain for a day out of the week.

My personal theory is that, as far as one can generalize about gender, men, therefore, might be better suited for life as an artist, since men are led to expect to be alone more than women can stand to be - women being more social and more given to expressing themselves commonly through their personal relationships, and thus less capable of dealing with stretches of solitude, being alone with their own thoughts, and so on.

I seldom feel as lonely when by myself as I do in many situations among others. It's not just that I have had to learn to be my own best company, it's that too often I wish that people with whom I'm in regular social contact (including at work, as I work in casual situations) would take some genuine, sincere interest in me, how my life has been, what I'm doing, what I'm interested in, what I think, and so on - and non-judgementally, at that. I've known lots of really beautiful, sexual women who'd wanted something to do with me (if you get my drift), but I lost interest in most of them because they didn't even ask where I'd grown-up, didn't listen to or take note of something important to me when I'd talk about it. I've felt most alone when in bed with such women; after a conversation or two with one I've recently met, I don't even want to go there. I know other musicians, but though they tell me what's up with their pursuits, when I mention mine, they act as thought I'd not said anything, to let the subject blow-over or just drop. It seems that a lot of people believe that a conversation consists of contending with everything I say or criticizing me, or comparing me against themselves – when they're not just talking about themselves.

Would you like to see photos of the neighborhood where I was a boy? No. Would you like to see one of where I'd learned to ice-skate? No. Have you even looked at my website and taken time to listen to any of my music? No. Do you know how old I am? No. Do you know if my parents are still alive, or if I have any family at all? No. Do you even want to know the literal first thing about me – where I was born? No. And I'm supposed to feel thrilled to be with you? Yes.

 

no one ever told you men are the romantic and sentimental ones..? and women are just there to soak up the attention?
until they find a guy who treats them like total crap, and they friendzone you , or forget you ...

I'm one of the bad boys.. but I know how the other half lives...

 

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