If people figured that out, incel culture would finally get the death it so desperately deserves.

 

This is the saddest thing I've read today, and there's a lot of competition, living in the US right now.

 

wrong person sucks with dating

 

@lordradish, please don't write your replies in the quote!!!

 

I noticed that doing even a bit of honest self-checking makes conversations flow way easier. I’ve had moments where I caught myself repeating old patterns, and talking things through on a video chat helped me be more present and real. Once I stopped dodging my own stuff, connections felt less like a performance and more like two humans meeting in the middle. Sometimes that tiny shift opens doors you didn’t know were stuck.

 

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Switch off your brain and stop overthinking and planning everything. Love either comes to you or it doesn't.

 

Dating is actually obsolete, nobody records on DAT tapes anymore.

 

nobody likes the records that i play

 

I'm here for the crack.

 

I reflect on myself all the time and I don't want to be dateable. I've never been married, but I've had many girlfriends and I've been lucky that they showed their true colors before the big question came along, and I let them go. Then one day, I stopped dating. Completely. I've never been happier since.

 

@joelynnpamplin, your date either finds you attractive and likes you, or they don't. If they like you, they'll ask for a second date.
Just be yourself.

 

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It's that time of year. damn.
glad I'm asexual.
(audiosex . "Pro") Lmao
Let's get back to unfinished tracks.

 

well well.. you say dating.. well according to some sources i am a starseed.. from a very different dimension here on the planet to spread love, positivity and peace. haha! yes indeed what do people know? maybe . do you think i am?

 

Thank you guys for keeping my thread alive!

Of course I'm still single. Yea, I'm probably asexual (audiosexual) as well.

Anyway I found my old crush from 21 years ago on Facebook. She's married and has a daughter. I'm fine with that. But it shows me how people like to have a common live... you know, getting married, having kids, getting a house etc. And I sit in my dark prison cell sized apartment and create (kinda successful) music for people and couples who have sex to. -___- Some kind of darwinism here. =D

 

Forced dating can work, but is more likely not to. im talking about tinder etc. To find a lasting relationship, the most important thing is to focus on yourself. Therapy, solid workout routine, mediation, clean eating, and abstinence from excessive use of intoxicants, p@rn etc. Be an active member of society, through friend hangs, book clubs, church, volunteering etc. A relationship will come naturally eventually.

 

Big believer in love at first sight. Or love at first vibe. Or whatever. It happenned to me when I WASN'T looking.

 

Dived back into online dating after finishing a ten year relationship last year.

Wow, the apps are a mess, dense with fake plastic accounts and a lot of weird/fussy/nervous/ghosty people now. 15 years ago apps were pretty easy to navigate and persistence paid off i found. Most people chatted happily, solid dating opportunities appeared and romance was out there.

Now I'm not so sure, a lot of my local app people that do talk seem pretty broken or damaged, or want a real life date after 3 or 4 short and not very interesting messages (i tried meeting one of these, we had absolutely nothing in common). Tried longer distance searches but those matches are very apathetic.

I'm in a lovely small town now but run out of options. In UK we don't have 'bars' where single people might hang out, and not a lot of social hobby clubs locally. Kind of stuck for options.

I don't want to move back to a horrible city to MAYBE find a partner.

People are forgetting how interact socially or just getting offline and hiding, which doesn't work for dating, we have to meet each other somehow, there's plenty of single people out there.

 

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