When you read that title... Did you take it personally? Just a little bit even though that you could be anyone?

If so, then read on.

<- ME - ->

When I joined this forum, one thing I promised myself was that from now on, very little filters. Don't be rude or mean, but have fun. Be creative.

For the most part I have. When I'm very wrong I've been corrected by other members and I thank them.

But a couple weeks ago I was out having drinks and someone said that line to me, "You're not as funny as you think you are". That summed up all my fears and doubts regarding my success in this world. I'm really lucky in who I am and what I've accomplished, but I still always doubt.

After that comment, I decided to remain unfiltered. Spit out whatever comes to mind if it's not mean or rude. The night was an absolute success.

Since I joined this forum, I've had more luck with my songs, and even more so since that night where my doubt peaked.

<-YOU ->

Do you know what a 2nd opinion is? It's one opinion of however many people you speak with. If you make a track and you share it with one other person and they think, nope, that's not ready. But you share it with 2 more and they think that it is... How valuable is that 2nd opinion. How much influence over your work do you allow it?

<-ME ->

So tonight I spent 1 hour thinking over a Eureka moment I had. I thought I figured out my next big project and for some reason I shelved it. 30 minutes later I reflected on past events and realized I was just repeating past mistakes full of doubt. From there I started the blue prints to my next task.

<-YOU->

The point is... Everyone has a different opinion, and lots of others I've met just seem extremely hesitant to test the waters. That comment, that title, reflects our fears in some ways. If I could give one piece of advice to anyone... It'd be listen to only constructive criticism, and believe in ourselves that what we like and do, is always going to be worth it.

Stumble, fall, hear those damning lines... But keep going and finding your way. It'll never get easier, but if you filter yourself, you'll never know what the audience wants to hear.

<-FIN->

We all are in unprecedented times, takes chances and risks (within reason and I'm referring to creativity and music here!!). It's worth it!

<-ME->

Of course I'm finishing with me. I need more wine.

 

Last edited: Mar 16, 2020

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I think I'm so damn funny though that even if I'm not that funny I might still be pretty damn funny.

 

That was what they call a shit-test, buddy. A woman's way of testing your mettle by pressing your insecurities a little.

You failed the shit test by taking it serious and then even making a whole post of ruminations about it for fellow muso's.

Next time, you look Debbie there right in the eye, and you tell her "Oh yeah. I think you're right. I may actually be MORE funny than any of us ever knew, myself included. Thanks, Debbie - you're a total gent for pointing that out."

 

You're not wrong. My first reaction was rude, and if I said it I'd fail myself for responding in such a way. Sometimes I'm quick, other times take a bit longer. This is one I admit I failed, but I stumbled and moved forward in my own kind of way.

Still, agreed!

 

Smile when you say that!
I always tell people, "A sense of humor is a sign of intelligence. Laugh more often, maybe you'll fool somebody."

 

I have studied comedy for 21 years even though I am no longer able to do any kind of comic or acting performance and I know I'm not as funny as I think I am, but I also quit trying to be funny to OTHER people and instead amuse myself with it.

Come get it, hoss.

 

I think u have ocd like me

 

I know. I'm like Ice-queen and everybody just freeze around me. I'm a walking sarcasm with a thick black thunderstorm cloud surrounding me. I'm as funny as a dog shit on your shoe. Maybe it's the "trying to be funny" society that made me that way. My favourite comedians are Bill Hicks, George Carlin, and Dave Allen. All funny to death.

 

pffft, have u seen my funny rating on this forum. I'm fukn hilarious!!!!!!

 

Damn right! I am a very serious amphibian.

 

You strike me more as the bill Cosby type

 

Never value your worth by someone else's opinion.
When someone makes a belittling comment like that it says more about them than you.

 

If you think you know what I think, then you only think that you know what I think, I think...

 

Oh I think I know, you know?

 

"You're not as funny as you think you are." -> I get that a lot. Pretty much the story of my life

 

Nice post. As musicians we are sometimes our own harshest critics. So when negative comments come back, we sometimes either agree or get defensive. I normally let new compositions sit for an evening or so, then listen again. That way, my self doubt part has normally left the building and my normal brain is listening. Normal as my brain can be.

 

I'm funny enough for myself. Dont care (much) what other people think.

 

Phew! What a relief.

When I take off my clothes and the girl points at the... erm... naughty bits, laughs and says "You must be joking!", I don't need to feel ashamed any more?

A thousand blessings on your camels for the wise words, "You're not as funny as you think you are."

 

Not my words, but YOU judge the mirror, not the other way around...