girls come and go, but music is the answer.

 

Until you find that girl that loves playing music just as much as you. Then life is quite truly on.

 

My "wife" actually does not talk...

 

If she is really upset let her calm down by giving her a little time but do not pressure her because that almost never works. Ask her to try counseling and if she agrees, stick to it. Don't do it just to get her back but to heal the relationship and to have a deeper understanding from her point of view. I hate when marriages come to end. If you both put God first it will work out. You are in my prayers .

 

Been in this situation a few times, and I actually DID MUCH WORSE than you. Straight up sex with other women.

All I can say is persistence will win her back. Tell her that the thought of losing your family has slapped the stupid out of you and made you realize you want to be a better man. THE KEY IS TO PUT HER ON "HOLD". DO NOT LET HER START GOING OUT AND TALKING TO GUYS AND SLEEPING AROUND. Girls sometimes do this crazy emotional revenge bullshit if they think you don't care to stop them. Say whatever you have to say to at least make her slow down and think about it for a time. Women are emotional creatures, and they make decisions dramatically and rashly. Calm her down and stay on her every day.

To be honest dude, if you truly didn't even sleep with the other girl, you should be able to straighten everything out. DON'T "give her time". Call or text her regularly to tell her how bad you fucked up and that you can't be without her and your child. Then consider a behavior change like quitting that band, or not going out clubbing for a long while, or something to express your willingness to not fuck up again.

 

You guys know your replying to a thread over 2 years old right?

 

The concept of time is lost in love.

 

Tell her you want to go to a councilor because you want to fix things. Be honest in the sessions. You will hear things you don't want to hear. But this will put you in the right direction.

 

I wasn't sure what icon to click for your post... I chose "like" but only cuz I like that you came here to share and help spread your hurt and feelings amongst our shoulders too... so we can all carry the burden together, as opposed to you just alone.

I have not experienced anything like that, but man I feel for you and will pray things are better (whether you or anyone believes in it or not).

Good Luck... focus on the kids especially though, this could be a make or break part of their lives too.

Peace, Love, and goodwill brother

 

...and the right direction can be separation. Happened to me, and it was for the better, but It was easier because I had no children with her.
With children it's really a whole different story.
I would answer the 4 years old OP with my view on it:
It's not so much how you treat other girls, it matters a lot more how you treat your wife and how you make her feel.

 

This is a pretty old thread and FellIVTheFake hasn't posted for over two years now. He is now about 25 years old. He was 23-ich when he posted this thread. When I was that age I thought that I was the shit, and looking back in time through rapidly wizening eyes, know enough now to realize I didn't know half of what I thought I did as that young bucking bronc. If you are still connected to this board @FellIVTheFake, I hope that things are working out well for you in your family life and you have come through stronger and more aware of who you are as you walk this lifetime. That, and may your music always come from the heart.

 

For the lovers

For the lovers of others' lovers

 

music is more important than women, because music is yours and it's forever.

the OP dug his own grave and should have told her to F off, there wasnt much to save anyway as by his description it was already
a typical master-slave scenario and it would evolve into self destruction sooner or later.

 

- smart decision